No matter who you are, or what profession you have, all of us deal with antagonistic and critical people. Let’s face it, difficult people are going to be everywhere. In fact, the Bible tells us certain people that God hates. Want to be amazed? He doesn’t name the devil among those he hates.
In fact, the Bible says that God hates, “a troublemaker in the family.” Proverbs 6:10 MESSAGE (Emphasis Added by Hondo Carpenter Ministries)
“A false witness who utters lies, And one who [b]spreads strife among brothers.” Proverbs 6:19 NASB (Emphasis Added by Hondo Carpenter Ministries)
Jesus had people that lied about him. Jesus had people that hated him so who are you and who am I to think we are better than him? But while many are quick to acknowledge that we all have difficult people to deal with, many don’t know HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM.
I recently was giving counsel to a professional and they mentioned to me about an “Office Bully” that people in their organization don’t like to work with, but won’t deal with either. When I asked why people did deal with the “Bully” I was told, “They will just make life more difficult for us.” So they let them run off good employees and make people miserable.
Some think that confronting a “Bully” or a troublemaking and strife sowing person is NOT walking in love, that isn’t true. Whether it is in your family, church or business, while you certainly want to avoid those people, sometimes you have to take them on in order for the family, business, church or group can succeed. The Bible says to “Walk in Love” but people forget that it says, “To tell the truth in love.”
“But speaking the truth in love” Ephesians 4:5 NASB
So remember what we learned as children, “If you can’t say something nice, keep your mouth shut. Remember what the Bible tells us:
“Don’t gossip. ” Leviticus 19:16 (TLB)
While the video below is directed to Pastor’s, the principles are shares in dealing with antagonistic people and the like is super for all of us. Most people do not understand (But successful people do) is that most people leave a commitment, whether it is a marriage, business, job or anything because they feel under-appreciated or get tired of leadership failing to deal with antagonists and bullies. Enjoy this great video.